How long does divorce/ separation mediation take?
Typically, about 5-8 weekly sessions (1-2 hours each). But it depends on the issues to be resolved; if they are particularly thorny it may take longer. Mediation can be interrupted if no progress is being made, and any agreements reached up to that point can be put into writing. That way, you will not be starting from scratch if and when you decide to resume mediation.
It is important to remember that mediation is entirely voluntary and can be interrupted at any time.
The mediator starts by collecting information about you and your children. We will explain what mediation is (and what it is not) and resolve any doubts you may have. This introductory session is free of charge.
We then go on to look at how you arrived at the decision to separate or divorce. Is this really what you wish to do? What other options have been explored?
If you decide to go ahead with the separation or divorce, we will set out in writing what is to be resolved, how the mediation will be conducted and who will pay.
What is decided during mediation?
Divorce/ separating mediation can cover the following, subject to the wishes of the parties:
- parenting plans – who will take care of your children and when
- child support – how you will meet the costs of raising your children
- division of assets – what to do with the family home, cars, etc.
Who is present during the sessions?
You, your partner, and the mediator.
What if we start to fight during the sessions?
While it’s important for the conflict and its causes to surface, it’s also important for each side to be heard without interruption. The mediator is trained to handle charged and emotional situations, and to help the parties work through them to where they can begin to focus on solutions.
What if we have already started legal procedures?
Any legal proceedings already set in motion should be suspended while mediation is under way.
We have some financial issues to resolve. How do I know my ex is telling the truth about his financial situation?
Mediation is about negotiating in good faith. Among other things, this means that participants commit to being open and honest about their finances, and to bringing to the mediation sessions all necessary supporting documentation.
What is the outcome?
In the short term, an agreement in writing – also called a “parenting plan” – that sets out who will take care of your child(ren) and when, and how the costs of raising your child will be met.
If you wish to make the agreement legally binding, you can have it ratified by the local family court through a family lawyer.
In the longer term, chances are your agreement will be more lasting because it has been agreed by both of you, and contains solutions that fit your family’s particular needs.
Another long-term benefit is establishing a dialogue between parents, which is immensely important to post-divorce family life.
If you have any additional questions please write to info@madridmediation.com.
